"The argument that women who enjoy BDSM are “taught” they should be submissive in bed is insulting to me as a feminist: I’m not a little girl who needs other people to tell me what’s best for me. I choose to trust the men I “play” with. I know what kind of pornography and erotica turns me on. I know what kind of touch turns me on. I know what kind of words and tone of voice turn me on. In fact, there’s sort of a joke in BDSM that submissives are actually the dominant ones because they have ultimate control (like with a safe word). As far as spanking play goes, I’ve always been the one telling men to do this to me, to do it harder, to do it softer, and when to stop."
"I’m going to get as far away from you as possible, she said, & there’s nothing you can do to stop me. So, I shrugged & turned & started to walk away. That’s not fair, she said, you’re not even trying."